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I was over 35 when I gave birth to Baby Max. My middle son was 11 years old and my older son had just turned seventeen. It wasn't easy starting over again ... Mother Baby Child is a blog to share parenting experiences, as well as what marriage is like after being a single mom for so many years. Get info on having a baby, raising children, babies, tweens, teens, homeschooling, mom blogs, work at home mom. business marketing, Christian and celebrity moms blog posts.
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90 Day Weight Loss Challenge

Take the 90 Day Weight Loss Challenge with me! Lose Weight, Burn Fat, Get Healthy and Feel Great with Lea H from Mother Baby Child Blog

This is what I've been up to ... How about you?

The past few months have been very busy for me. My family and I committed to an organic / natural lifestyle back in March 2012. This has taken a lot of research and major changes to how we shop, eat and live. The greatest challenge has been finding food that is really organic and really natural. We now shop between farms, stores and markets for the different foods we eat instead of the convenience of just going to one store for groceries. It has been a challenge, though worth it not to have to worry about the chemicals going into our children's bodies. Yet, organic foods or natural foods does not mean that someone will lose a bunch of weight. It is the same for those who become vegetarians. The food quality is one thing, but if you are frying, over eating or eating a bunch of fatty foods, then you will not lose weight just because the food is organic or natural. This is where my 90 day weight loss challenge comes into play, but I want to share a few more things before I give you that info.


organic Cherry TomatoesOrganic Jalapenos

If you have been following me on Twitter or Instagram, you know that I have taken up organic gardening and am pretty "into it" by now. Our tomato plants are like trees, we have 4 types of pepper plants going, I have already harvested radishes, basil, onions, chives and one carrot. Summer is not even our best growing season in Florida, but we are doing well and learning a lot. The greatest challenge has been dealing with the leafminers which I have found helpful in learning how to prune tomato plants (LOL) regularly :) I just love watching these plants grow and caring for them. During this process, I have learned that there are a ton of people on Instagram that are VERY into sharing their gardening tips and pictures, too. You can see all of these pictures on my Twitter or by joining me on Instagram (viralmarketingmom).

I have also been very busy with client's websites since Google launched Google + and had the Panda and Penguin search engine changes. These business owners always have online marketing needs that keep me busy and it can be a bit much because the search engines are always changing.

As you can imagine, my stress level has been higher than usual. The organic gardening has been helpful with handling the stress because it is my time to think, plan and have some physical activity. It is sometimes when I do not think about everything and that is cool, too. Regardless, I decided that I needed more exercise because I am not losing the baby weight as I had planned to do. I wanted to take a diet pill (like I used to before Baby Max), but I could not risk increasing my blood pressure after having the baby ... PLUS, we went organic / natural in March and I do not want to have those chemicals in my body.

So, I started walking again and taking aerobics a few days a week.

This has all encouraged me to see if a certain supplement was natural or not. I had been watching friends promoting in on Facebook. They always post before and after weight loss pictures from their clients ... Most have lost a significant amount of weight, so I was interested in finding out more, but I was not quite motivated to buy until my husband received an email and asked me if I knew anything about it. That was all it took ... I am now in their 90 day weight loss challenge and feeling excited about it. We all win t-shirts if we stick with the weight loss program for the 90 days. 3 people will win $1000 for being the biggest losers in the group.

It's fun! It's motivating! It's challenging! People are losing weight!

Plus, I get to make money while losing weight, and help other moms do the same. This is not a requirement for doing the 90 day challenge, but they have the best compensation plan and home business structure that I have seen over the past 13 years in wahm business. I don't have a lot of extra time, so this fits with our schedule and healthy lifestyle changes we are making as a family. I am excited to finally start losing this baby weight again because I was at a stand still ...

Here is my 90 Day Challenge & Weight Loss Journal


In Motherly Love,
Mother Baby Child

Baby Won't Sleep - Toddler Will Not Nap

Our toddler won't sleep through the night. Our baby will not nap easily. Any suggestions on how to correct these issues?

Our 18 Month Old Toddler Baby Won't Sleep

I am blown away with frustration and fatigued these days. I just do not know what to do! Our toddler baby won't sleep alone anymore and he certainly does not like to nap at all. Well, let me rephrase that last statement. He does go to bed alone at 9:30 pm - 10:00 pm at night (after a little rocking by dad and a little crying once placed in bed), but he gets back up in the middle of the night and refuses to go back to sleep unless in the bed with us. If we put him in our bed until he goes back to sleep and then put him in his crib, our baby will get back up again and again and again until we finally give up and put him in bed with us. None of us get sleep if we do not put him in bed with us. Although I love having our little "bundle of joy" close to my heart, I do not like how he tears me up in my sleep (he moves all over the place in his sleep; he pulls my hair and "plays" with my face in the mornings) and uses his feet to push his father on the edge of the bed in the mornings. He needs to start sleeping in his own bed.

I blame this all on my husband ... Just kidding :)

It has taken my husband MONTHS to understand and admit that I was right. I tried to explain to him that it was OK to lay the baby in his crib before he fell asleep, but he insisted on rocking him to sleep each time. I also let him know that it was OK to let our baby cry (with some comforting in between), so that he would get used to going to bed alone, my hubby did not listen. I shared all of the advice and experts articles on getting baby to sleep ... I pleaded with my husband for months (since our baby was almost a year old) and he gave me such a hard time about just laying our baby down to bed; stating that our son was "just a little baby" and "he will grow out of this". I told my husband that he won't be saying that when he has a spoiled child to deal with and he just ignored me.

I am not sure what to do at this point ...

In our baby's first year of life, nursing was my bonding time with our son, therefore rocking became my husband's time with the baby. This was "all good" for the first 6 to 8 months; the whole family rocked and comforted our baby. I began asking my husband to stop rocking him all of the time as we approached our baby's 1st birthday. Our baby had weaned himself from breastfeeding, so it was a great time to teach him to sleep through the night because he no longer nursed. My husband refused to adjust. He was not ready to stop rocking the baby to sleep, and I understood completely because it was an odd adjustment to go from breastfeeding to not nursing at all, so I did not complain about his rocking the baby to sleep all of the time. Now, our baby wants my husband to rock him to sleep and then wants to snuggle with me when he sleeps. I do not know what to do at this point; we have comforted and loved our baby to our own detriment. Yet, he is a very happy boy :)

He became our toddler baby with lots of changes ... Napping is the 1st.

By 14 months, he had stopped taking 2 naps a day. It was an adjustment for us, though kind of exciting because we presumed that he would start sleeping though the night. Our toddler baby used to get up by 8:00 a.m. - napped by 1:00 p.m. - went to bed by 10:00 p.m. - and slept though the night sometimes.  Once we thought that one nap schedule was established, it started taking longer and more rocking to get our baby to sleep for his nap and bedtime. He also started waking up at night and refusing to go to sleep unless in the bed with us. My husband starting to become frustrated because he had to rock our son for over an hour each time; sometimes our baby would not sleep at all and then become unbearably cranky and fall asleep at 3:30 or 4:00pm. Everything just became a mess. My husband started getting impatient and telling me to rock him; which I would not because he carried it on so long instead of just reading the articles I sent him and following the instructions. I finally started laying the baby down, letting him cry for a few minutes and then settling him. My husband got tired of the crying, so he changed the process to rocking our toddler baby and then laying him down. Now that our baby is 18 months old, he still gets up before or around 8:00 a.m. and goes to bed at the same time, but his nap is either later than 1:00 p.m. or he will not nap at all. It is rough either way because our baby starts getting cranky around around 12-12:30 p.m. as if he was ready to nap. The difference is that he does not settle to nap and remains cranky for quite some time.

Well, that backfired ...

Now our baby flips out if my husband rocks him and then lays him down. It is to the point that our baby won't sleep in the afternoon (he will not nap until almost evening even though he is getting up at the same time as usual).  We have to go in and settle him for longer periods of time ... if we do not, he will not stop crying. He gets so upset that he cannot nap. Tonight, I finally took over and put our baby to bed directly after bath (we played for quite a while after the tub in hopes that it would tire him out). He fussed for like a minute, talked to himself for about 10 minutes and then fell asleep. Regardless, of how he fell asleep tonight, I know that he won't sleep though the night. The plus is that we no longer have to rock him to sleep at bedtime. I guess that's a step in the right direction ...

I am interested to know if you have suggestions as to how we can get him to take a nap at his old time (1:00 p.m.) and sleep though the night. Our toddler baby will not stop crying (really, he just gets angrier no matter how tired) long enough to go to sleep.

In Motherly Love,
Mother Baby Child